Dating a girl coming out of a long relationship
Her new bf lives about 6 hours away, is in law school, and probably will see her probably 2-4 days per month at the most from our conversation.
I have gone out with her a couple of times and she's pretty fun to be with.
Then we are back to why are you dating someone who cheats, unless you are into that? She knows you like her, but she's only interested in you as a distraction. Yes...using you, but you are 25 and don't care right? My friends feel it's their appointed duty They keep trying to tell me all you want to do is use me But my answer yeah to all that use me stuff Is I wanna spread the news that if it feels this good getting used Oh you just keep on using me until you use me up Until you use me up Doomp doomp do do do dodo da da dodo. BW Use Me At 25 I wonder if it's too late to learn strength of character, morality, honor, and how to not knowingly create unwanted drama in your life...jaysus... This doesn't mean sex, it means companionship, communications, intimacy, holdings hands, kissing, attachment, etc... 1) She'll start to feel emotionally/physically unsatisfied by the LTR and will start hanging out with you, because in her head "you're only a friend", and you're "safe"...
I think you should ask yourself, what kind of person is she and is that who you want to be dating. It doesn't matter how far away he lives...matters is that he exists. As Igor pointed out, have some self respect and exercise your moral character (hoping you have some). I can see how this works out...b/f kicks yer azz OP and you wonder why. You'll hang out with her because you like her personality.2) She'll start to develop feelings for you, but she won't act on them.
The reason she is hanging out with you, is because she most likely hopes to string you along, and you can be her back up guy. I just kept my mouth shut because I didn't want to ruin our friendship" THEN she'll be "awwwe, I have feelings for you too!
She know's you are drooling over her like a love sick puppy, but she can feed off that to inflate her ego. It's so sweet that you held your emotions in to save my relationship" and THEN the passionate kiss... then she'll regret it because technically she cheated.4) She probably won't tell her boyfriend she cheated. So she'll keep it hush-hush, and cut it off between you two. 5) She'll have sex with her boyfriend, realize it's meaningless (also this sex somehow negates the fact that you two had it and she cheated)...
Nothing wrong with hanging out with her as a friend but don't do it in hopes it will be more. It is used a lot on the forums even by me but not so much in real life.
Finally, I'll pursue going out with other girls and i'll keep her mind if something were to happen. I think there's little worse than seeing someone who's in a relationship with the hopes of having them change their mind about their SO and begin seeing you in a new light. I'm sorry but I don't know what "SO" is Yes, I think I'll just keep as a friend but going to pursue other girls as well. If we both happened to be single at some point, then we'll go on from there.
That sounds a lot scarier when I actually typed it out.
Since that breakup, I’ve casually dated guys but haven’t gotten into anything that even resembled a relationship because I was still hurt for a long time.
Lad, you are putting the lie to yourself when you claim at once that you know a rule, and also that you intend to ignore it.
That you also wish to spread your lack of ethics further, and go out with other girls even as you are primarily waiting for this one to become more officially available, at which time you clearly intend to discard them as mere place-holders, indicates you are either refusing to think of others as deserving of equal respect to you.