Dating a senior in college
“Everyone’s self-esteem takes a hit,” a young woman at 75%-female Sarah Lawrence College told me.One reason: Sarah Lawrence men have little interest in exclusive relationships. It’s like they have their own free harem,” she grumbled.But when women are in oversupply—as they are today at most U. colleges and universities—men play the field and women are more likely to be treated as sex objects.In 2013, the gender ratio among that year’s college graduates was , women to men. With girls continuing to outpace boys in school and young women continuing to attend college in ever-greater numbers, the U. Department of Education now expects the ratio to approach three women for every two men by 2023.Dating isn’t the only reason high school seniors should consider gender ratios when selecting a college.Given the epidemic of campus rape, teenage girls and their parents are justifiably concerned about safety, just as teenage boys and their parents are worried about false accusations.
“In the last two decades, the gender ratio among college students has dramatically shifted,” Kring wrote in a 2012 article published by GROUP, the journal of the Eastern Group Pyschotherapy Society.The young man told me he had had sex with more than 20 of his female classmates.“There isn’t really a culture of monogamy or even dating here,” he offered.What does any of that have to do with gender ratios?Well, there have been multiple studies showing a correlation between gender ratios and rates of sexual assault.Here’s what had to say Georgia Tech, which is 66% male: “Tech is a fairly monogamous campus [and] people like to be in a relationship.” At 59%-male California Institute of Technology, “Students tend not to date but have relationships…Breakups are rare, and many couples get married after Cal Tech.” At Tufts University, “Halfway through sophomore year, people begin to pair off and generally stay paired off through junior and senior year.” Even at schools that are majority female, the dating scene is tamer when the gender gap is smaller.If dating is important to them—and I acknowledge that it’s completely unimportant for some—they should take a look schools with sizeable math and science departments because those schools attract more men.Just as sex-ratio research predicts, it is the colleges with male-heavy gender ratios where dating is more traditional.Let me suggest that college-bound high schoolers add one more item to their collegiate checklist: the gender ratio.If applicants and their parents want to know whether the dating scene at a particular college is geared more towards wild hookups or traditional relationships, the best barometer will always be the ratio of women to men on campus.