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Thus the Greek words that Boswell translates as "be united together" in the third section of the document quoted above are, in fact, rather ordinary words that mean "become brothers" (adelphoi genesthai); and when they are translated in this more straightforward manner, they impart a quite different sense to the reader.
Such agreements and rituals are "same-sex" in the sense that it is two men who are involved; and they are "unions" in the sense that the two men involved are co-joined as "brothers." But that is it.
There is no indication in the texts themselves that these are marriages in any sense that the word would mean to readers now, nor in any sense that the word would have meant to persons then: the formation of a common household, the sharing of everything in a permanent co-residential unit, the formation of a family unit wherein the two partners were committed, ideally, to each other, with the intent to raise children, and so on.
The relationship between King David and Jonathan, son of King Saul, is often cited as an example of male romantic friendship; for example, Faderman uses 2 Samuel on the title page of her book: "Your love was wonderful to me, passing the love of women." Entreat me not to leave you or to return from following you; for where you go I will go, and where you lodge I will lodge; your people shall be my people, and your God my God; where you die I will die, and there will I be buried.
We already hang out either with a group or alone pretty often. And how do I find out how she feels without making it awkward?
I feel that in the end, we would eventually need to talk about our intentions because hanging out alone now may feel like a date to me because of my change in feelings, but to her it probably is "just friends hanging out" unless she secretly likes me, too. First, I like the idea of a dating relationship having some friendship history.
If a dating/courtship relationship is anything, it should be an amazing friendship.
Second, three years of close, opposite-sex friendship has created a context that will require very careful navigation.