Dating selfish guy
I was also balanced, trying to be entertaining whilst also trying to secure a date. Let him mess you around – only see you on his terms, sleep with you and then make excuses to leave shortly afterwards – and he’ll do it.It’s this eagerness that will give a man’s true intentions away. They will not give up a good thing, but at the same time, they’ll do just enough to keep you interested. If you actually like someone, don’t be a pushover in the hope that he’ll like you more for it.And with that, people might have different motives for being on there. He might enjoy the thrill of the chase, the “cat with a ball of yarn” scenario.It may be that he enjoys your company, but doesn’t see you as a long-term prospect. Either way, you can tell when he cannot be bothered.He told her that he never really thought of the person he was chatting to.I’m a little embarrassed to admit it, but that Tinder user was in fact me. At that time, I was chatting to all sorts of girls and a few caught my eye, for differing reasons.We enjoy the challenge – the chase – and we also enjoy the attention.Guys can be just as insecure as women can, and knowing there’s a woman interested in you, let alone a number of them, is a great ego boost.
We’re not all calculating, manipulative scumbags, but men often subconsciously lead women on.Sure, it may seem that he’s just playing it cool to start with, but if it is prolonged, I’m afraid he’s not that into you. So if we really like someone, we don’t reveal our feelings until we’re sure they’re going to be reciprocated.By contrast, if your potential suitor makes an extra effort – perhaps remembering some small detail you mentioned in conversation, or tailoring a date to your tastes or personality – it is these things which guys don’t usually do that make it obvious he’s really into you. But we can’t count on the person we’re seeing to be any braver than we are.Most men have been in the frustrating situation of being involved with a woman but not being honest enough with themselves to admit that they’re stringing her along.And when I say frustrating, I mean for both parties – frustrating for the woman because she’s hoping it will work out but deep down probably knows it won’t have any long-term mileage, and frustrating for the guy because he can’t admit to himself that he hasn’t got the courage to end things.If he likes you, he will make the effort to meet up. A guy will actually appreciate you more and respect you far more as a person if you’re straight with him.But if he realises he’s not in for an easy ride and disappears shortly afterwards, then unfortunately you’ll have your answer.The reality is that if a man likes you – I mean likes you – it will be obvious.It’s the absence of the obvious that tells you he’s not that fussed. Connecting with people has never been easier, but we have so many options and opportunities that it makes sense to spread out our energy and keep things low key.He’ll be an unbalanced version of what you would expect.If it’s the thrill of the chase, the conversation will be heavy on the entertainment, but very light and vague when it comes to arranging a date.