Dating website for chronic illness
Lene (pronounced Lena) is an award-winning writer, health and disability advocate, and photographer living in Toronto.
She’s written several books, including Your Life with Rheumatoid Arthritis: Tools for Managing Treatment, Side Effects and Pain, and 7 Facets: A Meditation on Pain, as well as the award-winning blog, The Seated View.
Her bottom line is to be realistic about what she wants.
That is, instead of It’s important to remember that “just because you have a disability, it doesn’t make you less-than or less deserving of love.
Above all, Kira recommends that you “listen to your intuition, listen to your body.
Kira herself won’t go to a man’s house for a while, until she feels ready.“I read books about pain and female pain, and they were all pretty negative about your relationship potential.” She used her life coach experience to write about how we overcome the obstacle and create what we want. After working in restaurant management and hospital administration, she went back to school to become a paralegal.She experienced burnout in that career, and decided to go a different route.“I see that even in people who don’t have pain or chronic illness,” she said.“If they haven’t done work on themselves, the relationships are usually not that successful.” So, how do you create the foundation?In this, Kira explains her number one piece of advice for them is to not to be the primary caregiver.“It changes the balance of power, and can lead to powerlessness and insecurity for the sick partner, and resentment for the healthy person.The book came out of Kira’s own experience with chronic pain and illness.“It started in my late teens with pelvic pain,” she told me. Using her background as a life coach and someone who lives with multiple chronic illnesses, the author covers many aspects of dating and relationships.These include getting ready to date, dating, disclosing your illness, sex, relationships, and advice for partners of people with chronic illness.