“I try to distance myself from him when I find myself getting too attached because I don’t want a relationship,” she said.“I’m too busy for a boyfriend right now, and I don’t think he wants to be tied down either.”There can be a kind of “safety” in shallow relationships; people never really have to be vulnerable or reveal who they truly are, because they do not need to build an emotional connection with their partner.“I always make a point of disclosing I’m not looking for anything serious.
and I just don’t.”“Dude, that’s not cool,” Alex chides in his warm way.
However, if someone better came along for either partners, it would be over. An on-again, off-again relationship where he or she drops out when their partner asks for, or pushes for, more commitment.
Somehow they dance around it, but pull back, break-up and then return when the other person backs off. A purely sexual relationship that involves hooking up and “sleepovers,” but is missing any emotional and/or intellectual connection. Any relationship in which there is an inability for both partners to be completely open and real with one another.
And, since there is no attachment, the chances of getting hurt are significantly less—or so it would seem.
Though some may define a shallow relationship as one that is purely sexual, sometimes it has less to do with sex, and more to do with not building an emotional and intellectual connection with someone.