The french and dating
I’m saying it again: if you kiss somebody on the lips in France, it means that you consider this person as your boyfriend or girlfriend and that you want to be exclusive and in a relationship with them (long or short term doesn’t matter here, though). On the other hand, remember that French society and French people are not as messed up as Americans are when it comes to sex.Even if things are far from perfect, they have a much healthier and more casual approach to sex.But also note that all of those things have been changing a lot in recent years because of internet dating that has become extremely popular in France, and especially in Paris. So if a French woman says no when you ask her out (or anything else), it doesn’t mean that she doesn’t want to go out with you, it means she’s playing hard to get, and you’ll have to ask several times.One other thing one needs to know when asking a French woman out. Of course, there’s a fine line between “several” and “annoyingly too many” borderline harassing, and this line will depend from one individual to another… How is this relevant for a foreign woman dating a French man?One thing that always disturbed me in the US is how it’s sometimes easy to kiss or to get kissed (I’m talking mouth kissing, or even French kissing here).
But early in the night, when people are still quite sober, it’s really rare.
Here I’m assuming that one of the two persons involved is a local.
The dream of every foreign woman, and a few gay men too… Do you simply go to the country, you meet the man, and there you go? Everything in our lives is influenced by our cultures. I say “the country you’re in” and not “the nationality of the person you’re dating” because I believe that, at least in the beginning, you cannot assume that a local will know the dating rules in your country; on the other hand, if you are the displaced one, you may already know all too well about this little thing called “cultural differences”.
As an (almost) rule of thumb, if a guy talks to you (a girl) in a bar, chances that he’s sketchy are extremely high.
Also note that blind dates are almost non-existent in France.