Trusting your gut when dating
Then, on the date, he is ok, a little boring, briefly funny, and then ... Like when he assumed that because he was a workaholic and his marriage ended because of that, I must be one, too, and had my marriage end for the same reason because I am successful. But, I have a girlfriend who is very harsh about these things and says dump him immediately (she would have gotten up and left after some of the statements, but she's never been married at 51), so I don't know. If you don't like him enough to see him again, that is fine. I guess what I am really asking is how toleraant you sould be of things that don't sit right. I just don't want to be one of those people who never thinks anyone is good, but to date I have tended to the opposite, so I am trying to get this right. I guess what I am really asking is how toleraant you sould be of things that don't sit right. I just don't want to be one of those people who never thinks anyone is good, but to date I have tended to the opposite, so I am trying to get this right. I would say the guy is about 75-25 with 25% not sitting right. I think I'm just going to say what doesn't sit right with me and go from there. Text game was ok, some of it funny, definitely a lot of follow up and interest from him.
First is a feeble attempt at discussion, second is rude. I would expect most people to say something like, "Oh, I'm sorry to hear that." It's kind of a vibe thing. He seems annoyed you didn't get divorced for the same reasons. I've been divorced and on the dating scene for about two years.Think I will trust my gut that there is something weird there. Like he thinks divorce is only OK if it is the same circumstances he had... I've been out with several different guys, and tried to give some a chance that I was unsure about like you are.About two months ago I met someone and I really like.The thing about online dating is that you just don't know what to accept because you don't know the person at all and you likely have absolutely nothing in common when you meet. Regardless, if your personalities dont match, don't waste time.People say that you just have to keep at it and look at it like a part time job. I can see giving a guy 4 chances in an online dating scenario, but life is short--- why bother? I could see both instances being just a fumbled conversation. If you notice that every date you go on seems to end this way, then you can reevaluate. I won't go on a second date if the person has a serial killer vibe or is super boring or I can't stand him/her or I find him/her completely unattractive , but for stuff like you are describing I would assume that he was just nervous and give him another chance. Regarding the Google thing, it was more like I didn't think you could be that smart and how did I figure it out without Googling? Meanwhile, the entire thought process took me like two seconds. The answers were different, but the stories were the same. Not just a bad one-nighter, but a real "I should have known better. I started asking my buddies, then strangers about their relationship choices. Most people have at least one story about a bad choice. I was married for almost nine years to a good woman and we tried. After my divorce, I spent a couple of years lost, hurt and confused.However, we are socially conditioned from an early age to utilize reason rather than trusting our gut, especially if there is enough time to analyze the situation. " The next day I'm on the same golf course and get sent out with another guy. As I look at him, he shakes his head and says, "I hate L. She could add some professional insight for our fellow broken pickers. One of the recurring themes our interviews found was that picking a partner would be easier if we learned to trust our gut -- our intuition -- our inner voice -- whatever you want to call it. In the old days, Frank would send up a warning flare, "she's crazy," but my head would say, "but she's hot." Then six weeks later, I would have to sneak out in the middle of the night and change my cell number. Our brain and our gut originate from the same tissue and remain connected by the vagus nerve. He says he just finished building his dream house in a very exclusive part of Dallas, when he met and fell in love with a woman not willing to live in Dallas. " I don't know; pick from one of the 100,000 available women in the greater Dallas/Ft. (Check it out at and on i Tunes) As luck would have it, the woman I'm engaged to, Pamela Georgette, is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. Here's what she had to say about trusting your gut: This "gut feeling" or intuition actually has physiological basis.